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Here’s Why You Should Masturdate

The quirky dating trend that’s not as dirty as it sounds

BY Karen Muriuki

Dec 09, 2022, 07:34 AM

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Far from its cheeky almost-nickname, masturdating simply means taking yourself out and spending some quality time with yourself – you with you.

It is essentially dating yourself, and the meaning can vary from person to person. Think of it as taking yourself out: Buy yourself that outfit you’ve been wanting, or treat yourself to a spa day—whatever makes you feel special.

Masturdating isn’t just about self-indulgence, which is perfectly okay, but rather improving areas of your life. Whether you are single or in a relationship, there are plenty of benefits for taking some time for yourself.
There is a multitude of studies that tout the benefits of spending time with yourself.

Mental Health

You can find happiness in the smallest of gestures. Whether is it gifting yourself an extravagant coffee drink or taking yourself to the beach, you are taking responsibility for your own happiness. While it often feels good to perform nice gestures for others, it’s important to see to your fulfillment first; you cannot pour from an empty cup.

Time spent with yourself is never time wasted. By getting to know yourself better, you will be better able to stand on your own in the face of adversity.


When you make it a practice to care for your needs and treat yourself with respect, you are creating a foundation that will carry over to your next relationship. This is an ideal time to focus on things you may have overlooked in life.
“The most powerful relationship you will ever have is the relationship with yourself.”
—Diane Von Furstenberg
The key to a healthy relationship is knowing you are worthy and deserving of happiness without any outside influences. Security in knowing your strength is powerful.

Solitude Helps You Know Yourself

Being alone helps you become more comfortable in your own skin. When you’re by yourself, you can make choices without outside influences. And that will help you develop more insight into who you are as a person. It also nurtures your ability to find happiness within yourself without being dependent on external factors outside of yourself.

Solitude Sparks Creativity

There’s a reason a lot of authors or artists want to go to a cabin in the woods or a private studio to work. Being alone with your thoughts gives your brain a chance to wander, which can help you become more creative.

Future Relationships

Your journey of self-care and self-reliance will benefit your future relationships. The time you spent on reflection can help you better identify who you are as a person while allowing you to communicate your needs to your potential partner.

If you are currently in a relationship, give yourself the gift of alone time! You don’t have to rely on your partner to do absolutely everything with you; healthy distance is important in relationships. So, if going to the movies isn’t your partner’s idea of a great time, that’s okay! Stop and smell the roses by yourself and relish in your own personal day-date.

Alone Time Increases Empathy

When you spend time with a certain circle of friends or your co-workers, you develop a “we vs. them” mentality. Spending time alone helps you develop more compassion for people who may not fit into your ‘inner circle.’

Happy Masturdating!

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