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4 Tips To Tame The Ladies Man

Because you will need all the help you can get

BY Joan Thatiah

May 06, 2021, 11:32 AM

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Maybe you first see him at the matatu stage. It’s an hour to curfew time, everyone is in a rush and he elbows his way into the matatu and holds you a seat. Or maybe he’s the new guy at work and he sends you a DM after the office zoom meeting to tell you he likes your smile.

You fall for it. The way he talks to you makes you feel like you’re the only woman on earth. A few weeks in you realize that this is how he makes all the women he talks to feel. That ladies flock around him like flies. That yours isn’t the only honey pot he’s dipping his fingers in.

What then? How do you enjoy his company while guarding your heart? Here are a few tips.

Decide If You Want Him

You have seen all the signs. He is very much into you…. and every other woman around you. He makes you and every woman he comes across feel like they’re on top of the world. But he just will not keep it zipped up.

You can see his truth, it’s up to you to decide if you want to be with him. Of course, he is not the kind of man you should be trying to tame. He would make a great one-night stand or fling though.

Don’t Become The Side Chick

So you have his attention and so do a dozen other women around town. You might get the temptation to fall into the role of the side chick. You know, be always there to pick up when he calls, and being available if he wants to hook up at 4 am on a random Thursday.

The side chick rarely becomes the main chick so if you have hopes of becoming more than just one of the women he runs around with, you need to become unavailable some of the time.

Have No Expectations

 You’ve heard that it’s not the people we love that hurt us but our expectations of them. That’s correct. If you are going to get with a man who is in the habit of getting with multiple women at the same time, then it would be wise to not expect certain things from him like total commitment.

Here is when you put your big girl pants on and do what the guys do- go it the flow and watch to see what happens.

Don’t Forget Who He Is

Even ladies' men get caught up in flings. Things may be going so well between the two of you that you become the only woman in his life. Enjoy the short-lived monogamy, Hun, but don’t start frowning the next time you go out and he’s on the hunt again.

 A leopard can’t change its spots.

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